Dear McKoy: Threesome Gone Bad

Dear McKoy: Threesome Gone Bad – My boyfriend and I  decided to try a threesome with a girl we found on a popular dating site. It took some convincing and building trust for me to feel okay with it. I’ll be honest – I’ve struggled with feeling good about myself and getting jealous. So, adding another person to our relationship took a lot of thinking.

But once we started getting matches, I got really excited. It felt great to see all these attractive women interested in me. I never knew trying something new could make me feel so wanted.

Honestly, I had no clue if  I would freak out , get insanely jealous or burst into tears . But as time passed, the idea bothered me less and less, and sometimes it even sparked something inside me. He was loving every bit of it, telling me how much hotter it made me look to him.

Anyway, I took charge and arranged a rendezvous with this girl. We’d already been chatting, so I had a bit of a head start in knowing her. I played the perfect host, letting them get acquainted while secretly reveling in the anticipation of what was to come. I was buzzing with excitement, especially since it was my first time exploring with another woman.

During  the encounter, he got moody and stormed out of the room, so I followed him. He accused me of trying to win the other girl’s favor by joking at his expense and undermining him. Throughout the night, she had teased him relentlessly, questioning why I was with him, and I had simply laughed it off, assuming it was all in good fun. He criticized me for not defending him even once. I agree that when we were having sex, I spent most of my time on her, devouring every inch of her body. She was so good with her fingers and her lips and tongue were so soft and delicate.  I guess i was just lost in the moment.

Dear McKoy: My Man Hates Giving Me Oral But Don’t Mind Getting Head

He said that the whole experience left him feeling sidelined, like he was just a third wheel and nothing more than a toy. I’m at a loss for what to do. He feels that my behavior has been incredibly insensitive and deeply hurtful to him. I’ve been apologizing non-stop because I feel like I should have defended him or asked her to dial down the jokes, but I honestly don’t understand where I went wrong during our intimate moments. I thought our focus on her was to ensure she had a great time and would want to join us again. I’m completely lost, confused, and devastated that he believes I would intentionally hurt him like this.

M.E. 

Dear M.E. – It’s clear that there was a misunderstanding and miscommunication during the threesome experience. Firstly, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Express your genuine remorse for any unintentional hurt you may have caused him and emphasize your love and commitment to him and your relationship.