Dear McKoy: Thinking About Leaving My Husband for My Lover

Dear McKoy: I’m having the most insanely hot sex with my side piece, and let me tell you, it’s off the charts. We’re both completely hooked on each other. But here’s the kicker – I’m seriously thinking about ditching my husband for him, and that’s gonna sting.

We’ve been married for five years, no kids, but honestly, our relationship has hit a wall. These days, we’re more like roommates who get along fine but don’t really have that spark anymore. We don’t hold hands, cuddle, or have sex much. We just kind of go about our separate lives under the same roof.

Long story short, my lover and I have been seeing each other for almost a year now, and we’re head over heels in love. He’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner, and we’ve even talked about marriage and kids.

But here’s where it gets messy. I know I need to do what’s right for me, but the thought of hurting my husband kills me. He’s a good guy who adores me, but the truth is, I’m just not in love with him anymore. It’s tearing me apart because I hate myself for putting him through this, but at the same time, he deserves to be with someone who can give him the love he deserves.

P.B.

Dear P. B. – It sounds like you’re knee-deep in a pretty intense situation with your lover, and the thought of leaving your husband is weighing heavily on you. First off, it’s a relief to hear that there aren’t any kids in the picture, as that could make things even messier.

You need to sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about where things stand. Let him know that you’ve been feeling disconnected and that you believe both of you would be better off going your separate ways. It’s not easy, but it’s important for both of you to understand that there’s a significant divide in your relationship.

Even if your husband seems okay with the current situation, it’s crucial for him to grasp the gravity of the situation. Staying in a relationship where you’re not fully committed isn’t fair to either of you and will only lead to more pain down the road.

That said, it’s essential to tread carefully and not rush into anything with your lover. Take some time to reflect on what you’ve learned from your marriage and give yourself space to adjust to the changes before making any major decisions. Your husband’s feelings matter too, so be sure to consider them as you navigate this tricky situation.