I’m a 19-year-old female and my boyfriend is 22 years old. I didn’t lose my virginity until about six months ago so I don’t have much experience with penetrative sex. To be absolutely honest, it took me a long to get in the groove because the first few times were extremely painful. So now, whenever we have intercourse, I ask him to be more gentle because I can’t manage him being rough. I make sure to include other activities, such as oral sex, to ensure that he is satisfied, and he gets off every time we are together, so I never considered this an issue. He is complaining that it is full time that I get used to rough sex, and once he starts penetrating me, it’s like he is a wild beast and if I beg him to stop he goes even harder. This is a lot to endure given his large size, and I’m not going to lie, it’s really painful. I spend a lot of time making him happy in other ways but I think because he watches a lot of porn, it pushes him to believe that sex should always be hard, which irritates me because I’m doing my best in learning how to pleasure him. I love him but I am scared of having sex with him and I don’t know what to do.
L.F.
Dear L.F.: It seems that your boyfriend has a porn addiction and believes that being rough is the right way to satisfy a woman. If he loves and respects you he would never try to hurt you. If he is unable to respect your boundaries, you should consider ending your relationship because there is a greater likelihood that he will push your boundaries further. You should never be pressured into doing something you don’t want to.


She is literally describing rape, saying that she begged him to stop and he went even more aggressively. Are you stupid? Give her the line for rainn or something. Can you address that please?