Dear McKoy: I’m Having feelings for My Brother-in-Law

Dear McKoy: I’ve been having feelings for my husband’s brother for a while now, and they just keep getting stronger. Our families are super close, so avoiding him completely is pretty much impossible, especially since my son looks up to him big time. While my marriage is going great, these feelings are causing me some serious stress, and I’m not sure what to do about it.

Even though I know these feelings aren’t right, I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. I’ve tried to distance myself, but our family ties make it tricky without anyone getting suspicious. My husband and I have a strong bond, but I can’t shake this lingering affection for his brother, which I know is detrimental to all involved.

As a mature adult, I recognize the need to address and overcome these feelings for the well-being of my family and marriage. However, I’m at a loss as to how to proceed.t. How do I deal with these mixed-up feelings and move past this crush? Any advice would be awesome.

M. S.

Dear M.S.: It sounds like you’re in a tough spot with your feelings for your husband’s brother. It’s understandable that these emotions are causing you stress, especially with your families being so close. While it’s natural to have attractions to others, it’s important to address them in a way that respects your marriage and family.

First off, give yourself some credit for recognizing that these feelings aren’t right and wanting to address them. It’s a big step in the right direction. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate these emotions in a healthy way. They can provide you with strategies for managing your feelings and finding ways to focus on your marriage and family.

Be patient with yourself. Overcoming these feelings won’t happen overnight, but with time and effort, you can work through them. Remember that you’re not alone, and seeking support from loved ones or professionals can make a world of difference. You’ve got this.