Dear McKoy – Not Feeling my Wife

Dear McKoy – Not Feeling my Wife [Mckoy’s News] I am a 38-year-old male living in the United States with my Swedish wife for the last 13 years. We now have three children, ages 10, 5 and 22 months. I have not loved my wife for a long time now and if it wasn’t for the kids, I would have been long gone by now. We don’t fight or anything although I have tried to break up with her many times before.  As far as the kids are concerned their world is a wonderful place. My wife is always talking about moving to another country, maybe somewhere in the Caribbean to raise our family, however, I know and have known for many years that I can’t make such a huge step with her.

I know I lack the courage to make the most life-changing decision of all time. It’s the hardest thing for me, I have to think of my kids but I am not happy.  I have joined secret support for guys in the same position as me and they have mentioned that they think I am a wuss. They mentioned that I need to do it sooner rather than later or it would be painful and inhumane for my children.

What do you think I should do?

In need of urgent help!

CJ

Dear CJ,

Thanks for sharing your concerns.

While leaving your marriage might turn out to be painful for your children, I believe it’s best you sit down and speak with your wife about how you are feeling. You are both adults and I am sure she would be able to understand how you feel. Who’s to say? She’s probably feeling the same. I think you are mature enough to speak the truth to your wife. As a matter of fact, it’s the best thing to do. Forget that, it’s the right thing to do. Do the right thing! The most important thing is that you remain in your children’s lives. After you and your wife discuss things, contact a divorce attorney and work together to settle the situation as adults.

If you have any other questions or concerns feel free to reach out.