I admired Robin Williams’ work because he made me and the world laughed. The Bible says, Proverbs 17:22 “A joyful heart is good medicine…”. He entertained on radio, TV, movies, cartoons and newspaper articles. He was funny. Not just comical but infectiously funny. He was a genius in his craft of entertainment and he made sense each time he was interviewed. I would look for a moment of insanity when he was at his highest stage of manically hysterics just because I couldn’t imagine anyone being “happy all the time”. All that joyfulness that I saw could be the culprit that killed him because “we” never saw “it” coming.
Suicide: The termination of one’s life. Should suicide be an option? NO! Suicide comes about when all hope is gone and the forces of negativity overpower the presence of the Lord.
The number one cause of suicide is depression. I can think of a balloon that is blown up and used to celebrate a birthday (happy time) then it slowly deflates and falls to the ground. Depression is masked with sunglasses or shoved aside without proper treatment/s. It slowly creeps upon its victims to devour them but there is always warning signs to look for.
King Saul committed suicide because he was psychotic and Judas because he was overtaken by the grief of betraying the Son of God. There are accounts in the bible where individuals felt great despair and desolation, but they never ended their lives. Elijah, a great prophet was so depressed that he yearned for death (1 Kings 19:4). He was comforted by angels and given a time of rest and then a new ministry assignment.
Paul in the New Testament was under intense pressure, far beyond his ability to cope (2Corinthians 1:8) but he never ended his life.
Here is a look through my eyes as I have had looked death in the face many times. I’ve seemed patients slowly die of a different form of cancer. I’ve seen precious moments slip away but cherished and nurtured with open hearts and eyes. How many times I’ve embraced a family not knowing that my presence is all that they needed at that moment.
Now I’m thinking about the sudden death of a loved one and how the pain can rip against the hope of the future. I’m amazed when I look on a dead body how it causes me to steer within my soul and wonder about the effectiveness of my life. I usually leave with a new vision to reach out and touch more lives.
A parent’s heart is broken and screams with agony when a child dies unexpectedly. No one expects a parent to outlive a child, yet I have seen this happened so many times during my lifetime. I’ve seen a father lay straight on top of his deceased son hoping the warmth of his body would resurrect life again. Time is never enough to ease the pain; hugs and words are pointless and bear no substance, yet the presence of other loved ones brings hope and sometimes a smile to believe that life could get better.
Then, there is the planned execution that takes twelve or so years to take place. It is scheduled like a cesarean section for a birth. I’m watching the report on the television about a fellow being executed twenty years after the murder and I was amazed as to the preparation he went through before he dies. There was even a stay of execution. I’m sure it was a time of torturing to the family of the victim, but he was given a little more time to live…precious time as a gift from the governor. He craved for life because death is final. Or is it?
Death leaves a lasting impact on those left behind. And the scares do not heal easily
How to be friends with the person who lost a loved one?
- Keep them company
- Offer your help
- Listen to their story
- Don’t give an opinion if you have none
- Do not say “It’s God’s will”
- “You’ll get over it”
- “They’re in a better place”
- “they’re resting”
- “They’re not in heaven”
- Share verses of hope
- Pray for strength
- Don’t judge or criticize the situation even to a neighbor
- And don’t spread gossips through “opinion”.
- Present yourself as a friend.
Remember these promises when you feel despondent. In St. John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal (your life) and to kill (your life) and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. And in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to bless you and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Rosemarie Roth can be reached at 352-321-0932 for prayer or counseling. Or email her at [email protected]