Dear McKoy: Should I Leave My Husband for My Lesbian Lover?

Dear McKoy: I have fallen in love with a woman and I don’t think I want to be with my husband anymore. I am 34, he is 40 and we have been married for six years. We also have two kids together, a boy and a girl. During our marriage, I have never cheated on him until about seven months ago when I met this woman.

A friend of ours invited us to a house party but my husband was down with the flu. I ended up going alone. I met her there and by her physical appearance, I could tell she was a lesbian. We ended up talking a lot during the party and exchanged numbers when we left. We started texting after that and eventually, we started getting involved. Being with a woman has always been my fantasy and now I am hooked on this woman. I know it’s wrong but making love to her is amazing and I have never felt like this before. All I want to do is spend the rest of my life with her. I know it will affect my son and my daughter if I leave my husband but I want to be happy.




Dear Dionne: I understand that your feelings are important and you won’t be contented in your marriage if you really want to be with someone else. However, exciting sex with a new partner whether it be male or female, does not mean you will be happy together.  Furthermore, you have to think about how your decision will negatively affect your children’s lives. I would strongly advise you to make good attempts to liven up your marriage, including sexually, and break off the relationship with your lesbian lover. 


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