Dear McKoy: I am 18 years old and I live with my mother and stepfather. A few days ago my stepfather described a sex dream he had about me in graphic detail. Ever since then, I have gotten very uncomfortable around him and lock myself in my room. I don’t know what to do. I feel disgusted and violated. I feel like the man I have grown to love as a father has betrayed me. What do I do? How do I tell my mother?
Dear Moya: What your stepfather did was inexcusable and inappropriate. You must not keep this a secret from your mother. Tell her that you’re totally perplexed and hurt by his decision to tell about the sex dream he had about you. The mere fact that he explicitly describes the dream to you means that he has perverted intentions. I understand that you want to distance yourself from him, which strikes me as perfectly reasonable. However, you cant lock yourself in your room all the time. You have to get this in the open. I don’t think you should spend much time worrying about how your mother raises the issue with him. Frankly, he is not the right person for her.