Dear Mckoy: My Boyfriend Has Too Many Women– I have been with my boyfriend almost two years now. He used to be a very awesome romantic, jovial guy that I was never too busy to attend to or annoyed to be around. Sex was always excellent.
As time passes I noticed his changes of attitude and lock of interest less calls or text. So instead of questioning him I tried to be more spontaneous. But that still didn’t help much.
I then noticed all he talks about is having threesomes with other girls and EXs, sometimes I would entertain his conversation just to make him happy. But I never made the attempt to indulge in his request.
Then some time later I was messaged on facebook by a female asking how well do I know him. I was a bit shocked and wasn’t up for the drama so I blocked her.
I never told my boyfriend anything about the girl contacting me. Nevertheless I ask him if he was involved with others and he was honest to tell me yes five others besides myself. But I shouldn’t worry about it he loves me.
So after his confession I decided to unblock the female that had messaged me and I was just in time to receive another message from her, telling me she’s not harassing me or being rude, she only wants to warn me that if I’m his girlfriend I should be careful and protect myself at all times because he’s involved with a lot of other women and school girls and one particular female he’s involved with has a man that is said to be HIV positive.
I promise her not to say anything to him, but now I’m worried about my health with him. With all honesty at first I was so inlove and excited about him I never thought about protecting myself when getting intimate with him. Until I suspected he was going unprotected with everyone else. That’s when I catch my grip and started having some realization that I am endangering my health.
Despite he was honest enough to tell me the truth about his other involvements and I know the risk I’m running I do love him, but I’m confused and not sure I should stay with him or leave him and find me a life of my own.
I need your advise.
AD St Andrew.
Dear AD: I understand your situation, but to be very brief, I would suggest you have yourself a medical check up and also encourage your boyfriend to have one himself. I won’t tell you to leave your boyfriend, that’s a decision you personally will have to make. Put it this way, which is more important to you?
1- your life and health?
2- transmitting a disease from this boyfriend of yours, that may cause your life?
The decision are yours to make.
Bless you, Good Luck.