Dear McKoy: I Need to Choose Between My Babyfather and My New Man

I’m in love with two men and don’t know which one to choose. I have a daughter who is two years old. Her father and I have an on-and-off relationship. I recently started seeing this other guy who is kind, loving, and who seems to care about me a lot.

My baby father and I broke up because I found out he was cheating and I decided I didn’t want to live with him anymore. . However, I still love him and when he comes to visit his daughter we get intimate, but that’s how far it goes. Now that he realizes that my new man and I are getting serious, he wants to come back into the picture. He keeps expressing his love for me and begs me to give the relationship another shot.

He is my daughter’s father, and while being reunited as a family would be great, I will never forget what he did. I’m under a lot of stress right now and I can’t seem to relax around my new man. He knows my baby father comes to visit his child but he doesn’t know that we are still sleeping together. He is a good man and I don’t want to hurt him. How do I choose which one is right for me?




Dear Andrea: When your daughter’s father found out that you were getting closer to this new guy, he told you he wanted you back. Getting back together with him would not fix any of your problems from before and would only cause new ones. The two of you could wind up splitting up once more, which would be detrimental to your daughter. Regarding the new guy, it is too soon to tell whether or not the relationship will last. However, it’s possible that he deserves a fair shot.

In the end, you must make a choice, it’s a dangerous game to be involved with two men. 



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