Dear Mckoy: I have a sister that I literally hate. Growing up ,she always gets the best of everything. She is brown and I am black, she is shapey and I am not so shapey, she has long flowing hair and I have short natty hair, she has a lot of friends while I am a loner. I couldn’t stand her then and it is even worse now.
She was the one who was sent to college while I had to go look a job so she is more qualified than me. She has a very good job and wears exquisite outfits. She walks and talks very eloquently and she has a millionaire fiancé.
I hate her to the point where I try to emulate her talking, dressing and walking but it just cannot happen. Sometimes I think of ways how I can harm her, but my heart just cannot give me. I malice my parents because of how I was created. The sad thing is that my sister acts like she loves me and would do anything for me, but the hate I have for her overburden the love she shows.
I tried to get at her by sleeping with her fiancé; I actually got him drunk and we slept together. Even in his drunk state, he still called her name. I just stopped and left. I took pics and sent them to her, but it seems it drew them closer because they found out he was deeply drunk. They don’t speak to me none at all now. I am wondering what more can I do to break her down and take her place.
Dear Miss: This is a serious level of hatred you are harboring in your heart; this will drain you emotionally. Stop trying to compete and accept yourself the way God created you; you were created by God in his own image. Your purpose on this earth is different from that of your sister. Hate is a bundle of wasted negative energy that you could have used to positively enhance your life. Please seek therapy immediately before you wreck yourself further.
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