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I thought my now ex-boyfriend was the best man ever on this earth. The love we shared was so good. We cared about each other and lived a happy life. Our sex life was great in my eyes. He operated a liquor store and was quite well off. He was a party promoter so he would attend lots of events. He was getting very successful and popular. I on the other hand was very reserved so I would only accompany him to a few.
I realized that he started taking calls outside of my presence and would have this worried look on his face, but when I ask him what was going on, he would say party stress. I started to think he was cheating on me and maybe got someone pregnant but he would shut it down. I am not the one to search phones so just left it to time. His actions towards me didn’t change, but he was very distracted and edgy. I asked him if there is something I should know and he said no, everything is OK.
I was coming home from work one day and I realized that there was a black dark tinted Range Rover following me. I took a different route and lost the vehicle and stopped at a gas station and tried calling my boyfriend but he didn’t answer. I called my mother and told her my fear and she stayed with me on the phone until I reached home. I thought then that maybe it was my mind playing tricks. When my boyfriend came home and I told him he said maybe it was my mind for real. Things went back to normal but he was still behaving edgy.
We went to this exclusive formal party at a very big house with lots of expensive vehicles. It was my first time at an event like this. I didn’t feel comfortable there at all but not wanting to be a party crasher I just worked with the flow. Two guys came in and the atmosphere shifted; like they were well respected. I just went on reading a book on my phone. My boyfriend told me he was going to handle some business so he would be back shortly.
Trying to get away from the noise I went out to the back patio. While there one of the guys from earlier came outside; he was having what seems like a heated phone conversation but hung up when he saw me. He came over to me and asked if I was so and so girl and I proudly said yes. He looked at me for about 20 seconds straight, then I got this weird feeling and goosebumps. He shaked his head and said my boyfriend is not who I think he is. I just started crying right there because I don’t know what was happening. The stranger rubbed his head and told me to call an Uber and go home. I got up so confused looking for my boyfriend; I searched every room, but couldn’t find him so I called the Uber. On my way outside I heard sounds like moaning and I know I heard his voice. When I looked behind the bushes, I saw a man on his knees giving my boyfriend oral sex. I made a gut- wrenching scream and started running (heels broken and dress ripping). I ran into someone and it was the guy from the patio. He just lifted me, brought me to his car and asked where I wanted to go. I was so distraught and knew I wasn’t going to go back to the home we shared ever again. I gave him my parent’s address and he took me there. He stucked his business card in my bag and told me to call him for anything at all.
I spent two months being shut away from the world because I could not believe the man I loved so much was along with a man. He tried reaching out, but I blocked him completely. I would have never wished that ordeal on my worst enemy.. I rode an emotional roller coaster, but still wanted closure. I asked him about it and he said he found out he had that side to him from a little while back and that he was in love with the man. He said the man told him to make a choice or he would come telling me; that’s the reason why he was so edgy.
I burned everything that belonged to me from the house we shared and I destroyed everything he gave me. I went to the doctor and got fully tested; thanks be to God I got a clean report. I got saved and baptized. It took a couple years well for me to be with another man, but God worked it out for me and guess what; I am now happily married to the man who saved me but that I will share another time.